What a girl Wants vs. What a girl Needs

This is where I find myself time and again. Torn between what I want and what I need.
Throughout my courting career I have liked Many, Many, Men. As any of my close (and not so close) Girlfriends will tell you, I seem to emulate Jane Austen's Line "(My Love) Life seems but a quick succession of busy nothings".
This, I find, is both fun and frustrating. To my little circle of Girlfriends, I seem fickle. To the ones who know me well, I am just trying to find My Mr. Darcy. 


My process is as follows:
Girl meets Boy.
Boy shows slight interest in girl (he could just be very friendly)
Girl has long chats with Girlfriends about what to do and how to act
Boy asks Girl to do something in a group
Girl gets overly excited
Girl and Boy attend function (not together, but sort of)
Girl chats with Girlfriends more
Girl chats with Boy on Facebook or otherwise
Girl chats with Girlfriends more
Girl tells Parents about Boy
Girl finds something wrong with Boy
Girl decides to move on and not get her heart broken by Boy
Girl and Boy are still friends
Boy is oblivious to all of this


...And that is how it goes.
The part that always messes me up, and seems to keep men coming and going in my life, is "Girl Finds Something Wrong With Boy".
And by this I mean, either through his conduct or conversation I find his missing piece. The one thing that is on my "List" that I want/need.
And that is where I get confused.
There are several things that are important to me. 
That he love God and actively seek him, Know how to manage finances, and have similar values about family.


Where I keep running into problems is I find that a guys is too immature, not "religious" enough, doesn't have the similar values, no initial "spark" between us, etc. It seems to me that I always find a guy that is All of these things but One. He is missing one piece and I am afraid to go for it. So I quit. I resign to the fact that he isn't worth my effort and the heartbreak I would inevitably suffer, so I decide to move on. 


But there are a few times where I have not acted as such. Where one guy, who is missing an important piece, catches my eye. And no matter what I do, I can't shake him. 
For example, I liked one of these 999 piece guys. Then another guy came into my life at the same time I had decided to give up said 999 piece guy. Turns out they were both 999 piece guys, but for different reasons. The first one was falling short in the spiritual department. The second one fell short in the "spark" department. I was torn between what I wanted (guy #1) and what I needed (guy #2).


So what did I do?
I'll let you know........